The following are excerpts from the lecture entitled "The 6 C's of Good Character" by Sheikh Yassir Fazaga. This entry is third in the series following on from:
What is "being Considerate"?
It means that you deliberate. You think before you act and before you speak: "how is my action and how are my words going to impact those who are around me?".
Is what you are going to say something that will lift them up or is it something that will crush their spirits?
Is what I am about to say something nice that I need to share with people and it will be pleasing for them to hear it or is it something that will crush their spirits and bring them down?
So being considerate is the ability to think before you act, the ability to deliberate about your words and about your actions.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) spoke about respecting people's feelings. When there are three people, two people should not whisper to one another. Why? Beause it will hurt the third person who is present. Respect the other person's feelings. Be considerate.
The Prophet also said:
"When you lead people in the prayer, make it short, because there are among them some people who are weak, among them some people who are ill and and among them some people who are old and among them people who are busy."
Sometimes we make people hate the Sunnah, hate the Deen through our actions. In the name of Islam, we can be so rude, in the name of Islam we yell at people, in the name of Islam we demoralise people, in the name of Islam we crush the spirits of people.
A Muslim is supposed to be considerate - how you drive - it says a lot about you; where you park says a lot about you. We are constantly displaying our character, so the point is - be considerate.
The Prophet also said:
"If you eat garlic or onions, don't come to the masjid."
If you plan on coming to the masjid, avoid these things. Why? Because you are coming to the house of Allah, and the house of Allah has many believers, and eating garlic and eating onions is very inconsiderate of you."
So when you come make sure that you impact the people around you nicely. Make sure your presence brings joy and that the people around you will say that this person will neither do or say anything that will hurt their feelings.
The 4th C is Courage. Have Courage. What is courage about?
It is about us being able to stand up for our beliefs. It is about the ability to stand up for the values and principles that we hold. We say you are a person of courage when you are challenged yet you stand up for your beliefs and you stand up for your principles and you stand up for your values.
Courage is so needed nowadays. The Prophet Musa, wherever he was mentioned in the Quran, he was always afraid. He was afraid of the staff that turned into a serpent, he was afraid of the Pharaoh who was a tyrant. But can we say that Musa was a coward? Absolutely not! Because courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is doing what is right despite the existence of the fear.
Courage is needed specially when we have to challenge social status quo.It takes courage to speak truth to those in power.
The Prophet said:
"Do not let your fear of people stop from saying that which is right".
This saying empowers us and makes sure we have the courage, we have what it takes to bring about a change.
These are the 3rd and 4th C's of character - Consideration and Courage.
The next - Control - will be deliberated on in the coming instalment, Insya Allah.
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