Monday, 1 June 2009

Sisters We Are

E-mail from my travel sista:


A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting with her Mother. As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of
adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter

'Don't forget your Sisters,' she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. 'They'll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you may have, you are still going to need Sisters. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them.'

Remember that 'Sisters' means ALL the women... your girlfriends, your daughters, and all your other women relatives too. 'You'll need other women. Women always do.' What a funny piece of advice!' the young woman Thought. Haven't I just gotten married? Haven't I just joined the couple-world? I'm now a married woman, for goodness sake! A grownup! Surely my husband and the family we may start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!'

But she listened to her Mother. She kept contact with her Sisters and made more women friends each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her Mom really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, Sisters are the mainstays of her life.

After 53 years of living in this world, here is what I've learned:

Time passes. Life happens. Distance separates. Children grow up.

Jobs come and go. Love waxes and wanes. Men don't do what they're supposed to do. Hearts break. Parents die. Colleagues forget favors. Careers end. BUT...

Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you. A girl friend is never farther away than needing her can reach.

When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end.

Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you... Or come in and carry you out..

Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family, all bless our life!

The world wouldn't be the same without women, and neither would I. When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other..

Every day, we need each other still. Pass this on to all the women who help make your life meaningful. I just did. Short and very sweet:

There are many angels in this world. And one is reading this at the moment.


mamasita said...

You buat I nangis with this article! Whatlah youu!! Boohooo boohooo!
You tahu sangat I macam tapai! And I lovvve tapai pulak tu!hehehe

Zendra said...

mamasita my sista, what are my broad shoulders for but for gurlz to cry on?

now, now if you are tapai, let me be the ice cream ala Felda Merak Kayangan! hahahha hahaha

BTW Let me wish you Happy Birthday in advance of 6/6 cos I'll be away and I might forget on the day.

Keep Ceria!!!

mekyam said...

damn! u're spot on, zee.

or rather, your mom. ;D

btw, u have a new/2nd twitter acct? what happened to the old one?

tireless mom said...

Hi Zendra

You are such an amazing sista to share this with us.

Someone shared with me similar to this one a few years after I got married. At that time my life was husband husband husband mostly. It opened my eyes and realised that I still need my girlfriends around me. It changed my behaviour indeed after that.

Zendra said...

Hey Mekyam,
Correction - that article was from an e-mail - not my Mom. But she was the epitome of sisterhood, too, from Yaasin circle, tadarus, persatuan - now slow down lah.
I still got the old twitnick; thought I'd use this 2nd one for travels only.


Zendra said...

Hi tireless mom, agreed - sisters forever! The hands that rock the cradles RULE THE WORLD!

Thanks for cruising by.

mekyam said...

travel eh? then how come u didn't bother to uptweet langsung?

i was kinda looking out for yr onetweetner. :D