Saturday, 5 September 2009

Ignorant of the Signs

Today is the first day of normalcy after 3 days of the sniffles. Was traipsing about the house in socks and long-sleeves like it was somewhere cold like Australia. However that didn't stop me from going out when I needed to, where it was OK to go without a mask, in my condition.

And that was to the hospital to visit my biras, hubby's brother-in-law, who had fallen in the bathroom. The doctor's notes said "alleged" fall as if there was something sinister about it. Off course doctors are trained to write their notes like that. In Hollywood dramas, they say "sustained" a fall. But whatever.

My biras had suffered bleeding from the nose and ears but was alert and could move his limbs, according to the notes. He had been fasting and had vomitting episodes prior to the fall. He was a diabetic and had been for 17 years. Even had an ulcer on his big toe which seemed to have healed.

Saw his sugar readings. They had put him on insulin administered through a sliding-scale syringe. It was 4.6 upon admittance but had increased erratically 6+, 9+, 8+ even though on a fasting diet on doctor's orders. I thought that was strange because the readings were quite high. You'd have low sugar when on a fast, but what do I know. Hubby reckoned his body was in catabolism - using up muscle tissue to derive energy. Hmmm possible.

The notes said "alert" but I did not think he was when we were there. He was breathing hard. His eyes were glazed. He looked but did not see, I thought.

Why I'm writing this is because my biras passed away at 10 o'clock that night. We were there at visiting hours from 12 - 2pm. It's just that he was dying and I couldn't read the signs, in fact I did not know the signs. I thought he was going to pull through, Insha Allah. That was what I said to my sister-in-law and the two children who were there. They had tears in their eyes, they probably knew better than me.

But then he was not in the ICU and there were no labels that meant "No Resuscitation to be administered". This was something I learnt from a houseman in KK. They have such tags for terminal elderly patients.

My biras was 72. About the average life-span for Malaysian men. He was a very nice gentleman Abang Mahmood. He was never not smiling except on that hospital bed. But his time had come and it was through that fall. How I wished I had done more, like reciting Fatihas and zikrs for Abang Mahmood instead of poring over the medical notes, like I could make sense of them.

On the way home, Hubby had pondered about possible scenarios for bad endings and good endings to our lives. For Abang Mahmood, to me it was nothing but good. May his soul be amongst the Righteous.

Hubby and son went to the funeral the next morning 3rd September 2009, whilst I stayed home sniffling but was almost caught unkempt by an unexpected visitor, which........ is another story for another time.



Naz said...

Salam Zendra,
Al Fatihah for your Abang Mahmood.

Capt's Longhouse said...


,,,to live one has to die !! no fear shall be on you that Day, nor shall you grive,,,for it is not righteousness that you turn your faces towards East or West, but it is righteousness - to believe in Allah and the Last Day, and the Angles,,,,,,etc etc etc so don't blame oneself yaa...For Allah hears and knows (all things).. as you had rightfully commented back to me since.
,,,Al Fatihah Abang Mahmood

Tok Uban

mamasita said...

Salam Zendra..your Abang Mahmood's roh InsyaAllah aman dan bersama kumpulan yang soleh.

Al-Fatihah for him.

Luckily your sniffles dah better kan?

Saya... said...


May Allah have mercy on him...esp on this blessed month...and ease his wife and kids grief.

Kak Teh said...

Al Fatehah. Abang Mahmood was taken during a very good and holy month. Salam takziah to the family.

Zendra said...

Salaam Naz, Capt, mamasita, Saya, Kak Teh: Thank you very much, I'm certain the family appreciate your wishes.

Capt: "to live one has to die" - wow that's deep, really deep. How one lives after one dies - that thought never fails to give me goose-bumps.

Anonymous said...

Maaf Puan Zendra,

Saya doakan saudara puan diampuni dosa2nya dan dirahmati Allah.

Telah beberapa blog yg dikunjungi saya dimana terdapat cerita tentang sedara/kawan yg meninggal.

Seringkali kita membaca kawan2 meninggalkan laungan/perkataan "Alfatihah!" siap dengan exclamation mark lagi bila terdengar khabar si mati secara automatis.

Apakah mereka tahu apa maknanya? Apakah mereka tahu apa yg sampai kepada simati? Apakah mereka tahu apa2 tentang agama mereka sendiri? Atau hanya mengikut 'ikutan" atau arus ie menjadi pak/minah turut?

Bukan niat saya untuk berceramah atau merasakan diri saya lebih baik, tetapi saya sudah sampai "limit" saya melihat kejahilan yg berpanjangan dan berterusan yg tidak ditegur demi untuk memastikan apa yg kita ucap dan amalkan berlandaskan ajaran Rasullulah SAW dan bukan hawa nafsu dan suka hati.

Ruling on reciting al-Faatihah for the deceased
What is the ruling on reciting al-Faatihah and giving the reward for it to the deceased?

Praise be to Allaah.

There is no evidence (daleel) for reciting al-Faatihah or any other part of the Qur’aan and giving (the reward for) it to the deceased. We must not do that, because it was not narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) or his companions (may Allaah be pleased with them) did any such thing. It is prescribed to make du’aa’ for the dead Muslims and to give charity on their behalf by giving to the poor and needy. In this way a person may draw closer to Allaah and ask Him to give the reward for that to his father, mother or other people, deceased or alive. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When a man dies, all his deeds come to a halt apart from three: ongoing charity (sadaqah jaariyah), beneficial knowledge or a righteous child who will pray for him.”

And it was reported that a man said to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): “O Messenger of Allaah, my mother has died and she did not make a will. I think that if she had spoken she would have given in charity. Will she be rewarded if I give in charity on her behalf?” He said, “Yes.” (Saheeh – agreed upon)

The same applies to Hajj and ‘umrah on behalf of the deceased and paying off his debts. All of these actions will benefit him, as was narrated in the shar’i daleel (evidence). But if the questioner is referring to treating the family of the deceased person kindly by giving them money or meat (i.e., food), there is nothing wrong with that if they are poor.

Majmoo’ Fataawa wa Maqaalaat Mutanawwi’ah li Samaahat al-Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him), vol. 9, p. 324

Sesama Muslim

Anonymous said...

Mungkin sesuailah tajuk pos ini "ignorant of the signs", jadik sama2 kita mengingati...insyaAllah

Sesama Muslim

Capt's Longhouse said...

Si-Sesama Muslim !!

Respect for Muslim Brotherhood

O you who believe!. Let NOT some men among you laugh at others; it may be that the (latter) are better than the (former); nor let some women laugh at others it may be that the (latter) are better than the (former); nor defame nor be sarcartic to each other, nor call each other by (offensive) nicknames; ill-seeming is a name connoting wickeness, (to be used of one) after he has believed; and those who do not desist are (indeed) doing wrong.

,,,Would appreciate if you could identify yourself as a person ??.. or remain as a smart Anonymous !!

Tok Uban

Kak Teh said...

Thank you for your input, sesama Muslim. It is indeed good to share and inform the uninformed, but is your second comment really necessary?

Anonymous said...

Capt Longhouse dan kak teh

Bukan niat saya untuk menghina atau perli. Maksud 'ignorant' tu bukan dengan nada perli, hanya reflect apa yang Puan Zendra letak sebagai tajuk, dan pengalamannya "ignorant' iaitu "tidak tahu" atau jahil tentang tanda2 mati sama seperti kebanyakan kita. Itu saja. Seprti mana ramai dari kita tak tau asal usul "al-fatihah' disdekah kepada si mati tetapi tetap mengamalkannya. Itu memang kejahilan kita. Jahil bukan maksud bodoh. Cuma tak tahu, jadi perlu kita tahu atau cari maklumat sebenar.

Diri ini pun banyak yg tak tahu, jadi kita sama2 mengingati atau menujukan kepada pandangan ulama yang dihormati.

Maaf jika tersalah tafsir atau jika nada saya terkasar, atau seperti memerli.

"sesama muslim yg juga mencari dan jahil berbagai perkara"

Zendra said...

Salam Ms / Mr Anonymous,

Thank you for your enlightening comment, which I feel should be taken as a gentle reminder by everyone, as I'm certain you had meant it to be?

The fatwa that you quoted should be made known to more and though I only have a very, very small readership, I would rescue it from being buried in this comments section and move it to my main page as an entry by itself.

As for us ignorami, we meant well by offering Al Fatihah and did it with sincere intentions. Dare we hope for at least a tiny reward from the Almighty in this respect?

And may you be amply rewarded by Allah Ta'ala for sharing this knowledge. Ameen.


Capt's Longhouse said...

Salam... Anonymous somehow, your sarcartisium hunts me !! may you wonder why ??

..And Allah will judge with(justice and) Truth; but those whom (men) invoke besides Him, will not (be in a position) to judge at all. Verily it is Allah (alone) Who hears and sees (all things).


Anonymous said...

Capt Lonhouse,

tak ada niat sarcasm. mengapa kalau kita tegur benda yang betul, mesti kita tak suka?

wallahualam. Allah tahu niat kita masing-masing. Tetapi yang saya pasti, kita mesti hentikan sikap merasakan 'apalah salahnya, niat kita baik' dalam soalan amalan kita.

adakah kita lebih pandai dari Rasullulah SAW yg jadi contoh kita?

Kalau begitu, kita mesti boleh extrapolate begini. Apalah salahnya kita solat 10 kali sehari, tambah puasa wajib sebulan lagi, sebab niat kita nak dapat pahala. Contoh extreme, tapi hanya untuk sampaikan mesej perbuatan kita yg sukan mengadakan yg tiada dibuat oleh Rasullulah.

Maaf Puan Zendra. Hanya sekadar memberi contoh.

"we hear and we obey" without question. Surah Al baqarah pada akhirnya.

sesama Muslim

Capt's Longhouse said...

its in the attitude from the sound of it !! ...that kind of pains our ears ??.

yoo perhaps its your holier-than-thou - excessively or hypocritically pious; "a sickening sanctimonious smile" mindset ??

your intention might be noble enough to make your comments heard here but ours was for a blogger friend in times of grive for the lost of a love one only!

indeed, you spoilt our evening chat. Gee, are you happy now?? bulan baik hari baik pula ini yaa.
baru membaca nak mengajar ?? Yeop Oii,,,haha !! some people.


Capt's Longhouse said...

Impermanence (embracing change), aging, and illness
Do not give people a set time.
One may be alive in the morning,
Then dead at night,
Changing worlds in an instant.
We are like the spring frost,
Like the morning dew
Suddenly gone.


Anonymous said...

Salaam Semua!

Ta'ziah di atas kematian. Semoga Allah mengampuni dosanya dan merahmatinya. Alfatihah!

Saya tertarik dengan pandangan dan jawapan balik Sesama Muslim tentang menghadiah alFatihah untuk si mati. Cara peneguran itu typical bagi suara yang kian lantang sekarang, khususnya yang terlatih (atau mengikut) ajaran Saudi yang memang bersikap begitu. Keras, self-righteous, holier than thou. Kita di Nusantara bertradisi lembut dan bersedia mendengar teguran dan ajaran yang disampaikan dengan baik. Marilah kita terus begitu.

Saya sendiri kurang arif, tetapi sila baca fatwa Sheikh Afifi Alakiti (seorang alim anak Malaysia di Oxford) yang panjang lebar tentang amalan untuk orang yang sudah mati, 'Amal of the Living for the Dead'; boleh dibaca di sini:

Kalau tidak mahu baca fatwa Alakiti yang panjang lebar itu, ada satu lagi fatwa ringkas oleh Shaykh Amjad Rasheed, di sini:


Alfaqir ilaLlah

Zendra said...

Yes Allah knows best, Sesama Muslim.

I've read or perhaps heard a tazkirah that Rasulullah SAW himself performed the so-called terawikh prayers only 3 times during his time, for fear that his followers will deem it mandatory.

One of his learned companions, later after Rasulullah's death started these prayers on a regular basis and they are are being carried out in most surau and masjids every Ramadan night everywhere today. If nothing, these congregatory prayers instills brotherhood/sisterhood amongst the Ummah - a reward in itself surely.

There are many other acts of worship that are considered innovation in this age but in my opinion, they are acts of worship nonetheless and we trust that Allah in his Wisdom accord rewards as to His own judgement.

Zendra said...

Top of the morning, Capt, I like your little poem. Memang ajal dan maut di tangan Allah. That's why our whole life should be in deference to Him, cari keredhaanNya sentiasa. For me, I know I slip and stumble often, my consistency always wanting. Let us all together keep reminding each other, and take it as that.

Baru nampak taring Captain lah - kecut juga perut haha

Zendra said...

Salam Alfaqir ilaLlah

Yes I've heard (but have not studied) that the Wahabbi school of thought are strongly against bid'ah in any form even those of the hasanah category.

To quote an Ustaz, many of us now are quick to demand daleels of just about anything but not too quick on the amalans themselves. I don't know, I'm not too quick on either one myself.

Thanks for sharing the links. Insya Allah I'll give them a read.


Zendra said...

Ah I've forgotten to switch id's and used my other profile photo with Red Alfa in, but the views posted in those comments may not necessarily be that of RA's, though he has been my mentor in many things thus far.

Capt's Longhouse said...

Hi Zendra,,,very good morning from Kapas !!..baru buka langkah aja tiga empat steps belum bertempur lagi yaa. haha@@ some people ??

Tok Uban

Anonymous said...


Kalau mahu melihat sebagai "holier than thou", "self righteous", atau terlampau lantang, terpulanglah kepada saudara/ri anon. Itu bukan niat saya."Holy" atau "pious". Jauh sekali diri saya dari kedua perkataan itu.

Banyak fitnah yg dilemparkan dengan keras terhadap so-called "wahhabi" tanpa usul periksa.

Hakikatnya, Sheikh Muhammad Wahab, yg tidak langsung berniat memulakan mazhab baru, hanya ingin membersihkan aqidah dan amalan2 karut yg makin menular di kalangan org Islam.

Apa-apa pun, golongan anti-wahabi juga saya lihat amat lantang memaki hamun ulama2 yg lain kerana mahu pertahankan amalan2 datuk/nenek yg mungkin tiada basis dalam islam, samalah seperti zaman jahiliah dahulu.

Setiap kali perkara yg batil diserlahkan, setiap kali 'the bearer of truth" (bukan dari diri sendiri, tapi dari pandangan ulama sohor) ditembak mati.

Moga Allah menunjukkan kita semua jalan yang benar pada akhir zaman ini.

Niat saya di sini, hanya supaya si arwah dapat merasakan ganjaran dari amalan yang benar dari waris2nya. Kalau amalan kita tak termasuk dalam pengajaran Nabi, sia2 sahaja dan tidak kesampaian kepada arwah yang sudah di alam barzakh. Kita boleh gunakan perkara paling mudah, (easy way out) hanya mengucapkan "al-fatihah" daripada berbuat yg fizikal, yg dianjurkan oleh Nabi, iaitu bersedekah atas namanya, menjadi anak soleh supaya doa kita sampai pada mak bapak yg amat memerlukannya di alam tersebut.

Maaflah Puan Zendra, lain kali, mungkin saya hanya akan terdetik dalam hati dan biarkan perkara2 sebegini terus diamalkan, sebagaimana talkin dan sebagainya yg masih terlalu entrenched dan pernah ditegur oleh Nik Aziz sendiri.

Sekarang kita tgk di Astro Oasis, Al-Quran dijadikan "lagu" oleh Ustazah2 sambil bergendang.

Apa yang dilihat sebagai "self righteous" atau "holier than thou", sebenarnya kesedihan/protes/sedikit kemarahan atas perkara2 yg makin menjadi2 yang innovatif berputik dari kasih pada Rasullulah dan Allah yg telah menurunkan Islam dalam keadaan simple dan mudah diikuti. Itu sahaja yg mungkin menyebabkan komen saya berbaur lantang pada org.

Saya berhenti di sini sahaja, Puan dan Anon.

MInta maaf banyak2.

Red Alfa said...

Salam semua, readers yang dihormati,

I am taking anon 0509's comments as a personal reminder!

As reminders go, it hardly compared to some fierce admonishments I used to get from a Wahabbi and an anti-hadith extremist friends. Both are critical of each other but ironically both share the same mengkafirkan everyone else with regard to acts of innovations (i.e. amalan-amalan bida'ah).

Nevertheless, I am duly reminded that we should always and critically challenge all our amalan especially those handed to us by our "forefathers" separating the adat from the shariat as we should sieve the wheat from the chaff, as we would say.

As the views posed by Zendra and Anon 0609 have it, the jury is still out with regard to some of those bida'ah hasanah or otherwise!

May we are deserving by Allah SWT and may we shall always be guided in our niat and amalan! Al Fatihah!

Saya... said...


If I may interject in this interesting turn of events, I would like to point out to Anon Alfaqir that what he/she said is not quite true.

See, even when our ulama nusantara (ie here in malaysia), come out with fatwas against yoga sebagai contoh and the dangers it poses to our basic aqidah, and they say it in a most neutral way possible, people STILL jump up and down when they hear the word HARAM. They will say "semua tak boleh", "extremist", "bukan niat kita puja Hindu idol pun" etc etc. (tapi tak sedar,pose tu memang worship pose...interesting to note, that Dr Maza, yg also dituduh Wahabi allows for yoga sebagai senaman, tetapi org hanya nampak apa yg mereka in this case, Dr Maza gets praises sebab pendapat dia "sesuai" dengan KEHENDAK si liberal2 ni. Time lain, tak sesuai,Dr Maza mungkin dituduh WAHABIIII extremistttt! Hahaha...)

Even though the justifications/explanations have been given, ie: the poses themselves began as forms of worship and then slowly (disguised?) as exercise, the "holier than thous" and "mengkafirkan" screams began resonating from the liberals (Im also liberal, but I still respect my ulama, "wahhabi" or "nusantara" or "sunni") that the ulama were being oppressive and backward and hysterical over "nothing".

Aqidah is NOT nothing, Tapi manusia memang sebgitu. Tetap pertahankan sesuatu yg jelas salah, mungkin kerana for the sake of appearing acceptable to the West, sebab nak jugak buat yoga dah syok dan slim, dan amalan vogue, atau menjaga periuk nasik sendiri (ie the Yoga Queen who threatened to sue our ulama for that fatwa) Fatwas are important because we the unknowledgeable need guidelines on how to live our lives. Tak nak terima, sendiri tanggung, tapi jangan sampai sama-sama menyesatkan umat kita yg tak kuat aqidah. Therein lies the dangers of these "holier than thou" labels stuck on those ulama and those who try to point out the truths for all our sakes by the liberals or the rabid haters of "Wahhabis".

Tak dapat points atau fofular pun nak stick our necks out. Org benci lagi ade. Tapi demi pertahankan kesucian agama tercinta, these people do it anyway.

Ps: Red Alfa, anon time 0509 and 0609 hak mana nih? Tak jumpa pun time tu punya komen.

Zendra said...

Hish Anon (Sesama Muslim), janganlah begitu sekali - silakan sampaikan pendapat anda disini. Saya selalunya bersikap terbuka tentang banyak perkara melainkan perkara yang mengaibkan diri dan peribadi sesama manusia, walaupun terkadang saya yang tak sempurna ini terlupa tentang pendirian saya sendiri.

Dan jika pendapat anda mengguris sensitiviti pembaca, saya rasa itu memanglah adat, ada yang tak senang dengan stail penyampaian anda manakala ada yang mengenepikan itu tetapi melihat pada mesej anda sahaja.

Saya fikir anda sememangnya seorang yang pintar, banyak membaca dan menganalisis. Alangkah ruginya kita jika ada perkara yang anda ingin berkongsi bersama terbantut sahaja dek kerana merajuk.

Bolehkah lagi dipujuk? hehe

Anonymous said...

Puan Zendra,

Terima kasih di atas kebaikan Puan dan sikap terbuka Puan. Moga2 kita sama2 bimbing membimbing.

Capt Longhouse juga banyak memberi pengajaran kepada saya dengan tafsir-tafsir ayat-ayat Qurannya.

Terima kasih Capt! Mungkin satu hari saya akan sampai ke Pulau Kapas dan dapat berjumpa dengan Tuan yang budiman!

sesama muslim

Zendra said...

Saya, I was just wondering when you might come in with your take on this. I have yet to read Alfaqir's suggested links and so am not able to comment on the said fatwas. Too many things to do this morning like participating in some amalans at the mosque which may make Sesama Muslim jump in horror due to the innovation factor. Maybe I'm just so Mak Turut in these matters, ikut adat but knowing me, rather than spend my time in lagha activities I'm glad I had the strength to pull myself there this morning. And I do try to abide by the fatwas. I no longer want to attend Yoga after seeing in a book some poses are indeed very similar to movements in solat.

TQ for your input. Dah lama hang tak komen sini, nanti I pun merajuk hahahah

Saya... said...

Hehe, Zendra,

betui, betui...banyak sangat wasted on lagha (speaking for meself)...kena rotan diri sket.tapi self flagellation nanti macam Syiah pulak...melompat lagi lah Sesama Muslim (ampun ya Sesama Muslim)

Red Alfa said...

Salam Saya

I was referring to anon 0509:1502's comments when I mentioned I am taking it as being personally reminded. What I meant next was there had been reminders on the same subject but not quite in the same view, they being from 2 opposite 'extremist' sources.
I acknowledge the good in the reminders and my position is to critically review the 'popular' amalans we have been performing and must find whether they are adat or shariat and act accordingly.
The comments and views as posted by sesama muslim and alfaqir here are points for reflection if not to be well taken in their respective contexts.

Red Alfa said...

I mean ... the line "in the same view" should read "in the same vein"

Zendra said...

Before I forget, I would like to thank Tok Uban and Kak Teh for standing up to the perceived brashness of Sesama Muslim in puting forward his/her views.

Insya Allah I will post both Sesama's and Alfaqir's reference fatwas in a new entry in due course.


Anonymous said...

Salaam Semua!

Dengan semangat Ramadhan dan sebagai Muslimin eloklah kita berdamai. Saya bukan mahu berperang dengan Sesama Muslim yang saya anggap sebagai saudara saya. Saya setuju dengan pendapat tentang Yoga, saya juga benci apabila orang-Muslim (termasuk penerbitan berunsur Islam) yang mengguna perkataan 'idola', sebab 'idola' itu daripada perkataan Inggeris Idol, yang bermakna patong yang disembah. Saya pernah mendengar orang Islam berkata (tentang seorang yang dia puji kebolehannya di bidang tertentu) 'He is the god of...", dan satu kali seorang Muslim yang saya tak kenali berkata di depan saya (tentang seorang perempuan yang disukainya), 'Hello, goddess!' Astaghfirullah!
Terima kasih Sesama Islam kerana memberi pendapat, tetapi saya sentiasa memberi ingat diri saya bahawa Islam itu luas, pendapat itu berbagai, kita mestilah pertimbangkan setaip satu mengikut mutunya. Ulama kita zaman dulu bukan semuanya bodoh. Ramai yang mencapai darjat yang tak dicapai oleh orang sekarang, ramai juga yang belajar di Mekah, ramai mahir berbahasa Arab, dan ramai bertaraf auliya. Jadi jangan kita perkecilkan pencapaian mereka dgn berkata 'itu ajaran nenek moyang kita, dll.' sahaja. Memang taghut dan karut itu ada di mana-mana, tapi dalam perbahasan mestilah berdisiplin. (Cubalah lihat arah perbahasan di sini untuk melihat contohnya, bertabur ke seribu arah, seperti peluru 'pot shot').
Bid'ah itu ada hasanahnya, bukan semua ditolak. Tengoklah sembahyang tarawih, yang pastinya ialah lapan rakaat, tapi tengoklah berapa rakaat yang dibuat di Makkah. Sembahyang beramai seperti yang dibuat sekarang ini pun dimulakan oleh Umar, bukan RasuluLlah. Dan Umar sendiri berkata itu satu bid'ah yang baik [Shahih Bukhari, HN 1871]. Ada perkara yg tak dibuat zaman Rasulullah tetapi diterima dengan consensus ulama' (mafhum muwwafaqat). Orang yg lebih tahu di kalangan fiqh berkata dalil itu bukan sahaja daripada yang zahir, tetapi ada juga nas syariat (yang zahir dan bathin), sebagai amalan masyruiyyat. Wallahu a'lam.

"Kullu bidaatan dalalah, wakullu dalalatan finnaar." Kerap diterjemahkan sebagai: Setiap bid'ah itu dalalah, dan setiap dalalah itu pada neraka. 'kullu' di sini maknanya bukan 'setiap', tetapi 'ada diantara'. Mengikut pendapat ulama, bid'ah itu lima: wajib, sunnah, haram, makruh dan mubah.

Saya sendiri mengingatkan diri saya: "Semakin bertambah ilmuku, semakin sedar aku tentang kejahilanku." - Imam Ghazali.

Semoga Allah memberi kita hidayah.

- Alfaqir IlaLlah

Uncle Lee said...
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Uncle Lee said...

Hello Sendra, That was me deleting, thought I masuk rumah salah.
Regret read of Abang Mahmood.
It is sad he passing away just before the Hari Raya.
My deepest sympathies to you and family and Abang Mahmood's family. May he rest in peace.

Zendra, re your sniffies, if you passing a Chinese medicine store, pop in and ask for this tea herbal drink called, "Hor yan hor".
Yes, I know, sounds like Tarzan calling out for Cheetah, its made in Ipoh, Perak.

And its good for coughs, colds, well when your battery running low.
Though I'm not sure about heart problems, those with romance problems, ha ha. Try it....

Two hot cups will make you feel aglow. Three? You'll be singing 'Bengawan Solo", ha ha.
And its cheap too. We get them here too.

My wife just has to cough 3 times, she starts boiling a packet....even though the cough I think from the chili spices and pepper she tumbuk tumbuk to make sambal belachan.

You stay easy and get well regards, Lee.

Capt's Longhouse said...

Dear all, my last take !! haha no saint meself !! but as a constant reminder...(for meself especially !!) yaa ??....

..Those who annoy Allah and his Messenger - Allah has cursed them in this World and in the Hereafter, and has prepared for them a humiliating Punishment.
..And those who annoy believing men and women undeservedly, bear (on themselves) a calumny and a glaring sin.

Indeed,,,Semoga Allah memberi kita hidayah.

Tok Uban & Selamat Malam.

Capt's Longhouse said...

o.k.-lah just another one last reminder/tango more so to meself yaa ??..cili kan pedas ??

,,,Much as some of us/we all love being the center of attention !!
,,, there are times when honesty is called for over high drama. This is indeed one such time. It's possible that our flair for the dramatic have put us in hot water with some people close to you/me??.
,,,Could it be that we communicated some important information incorrectly or inaccurately? ha !
,,,BUT indeed to all my Muslim buddies yoo, Honesty and Authenticity matter most right now.
,,,lets not play God's role yaa !! for Allah knows best those who transgress/strays from His Way. He knows best who they are that receive His guidance..yaa for those who earn sin will get due recompense for their 'earning' !!.

...i finally rest my case Zendra, i promise yaa. haha !!

Capt.Tok Uban

Anonymous said...

Kak Zen, takziah on your loss. My paretns are in their early 70s, God know how nervous I get whenever they fall sick. I hope I don't miss the signs...

Interesting comments on this post eh? I honestly didn't see the sarcasm that started the pouring of reactions... Maybe I got no feelings hehehe...

Mat Cendana said...

Had wanted to say something about "another matter" but since Capt and Aku... oops, Saya had written something similar, I'm sparing the time and energy to write a reply to Capt's comment at my blog instead... unless I get sidetracked and go to read the blogs of Kak Teh, Puteri Kamaliah, Mamasita and Pi Bani's blogs instead after this.

"How I wished I had done more, like reciting Fatihas and zikrs for Abang Mahmood instead of poring over the medical notes, like I could make sense of them."

In my opinion you had indeed "done more" by reading the medical notes. And based on what you had written here, you had made enough sense to know that the doctor was most likely wrong with his diagnosis. Or maybe he was actually right when he examined arwah; only for the latter's condition to turn for the worse after that. Anyway, you had done your best to TRY understand what the situation was for Abang Mahmood by using what any reasonable minded person would have done. You had also gone another level by being observant of his condition then, and was brave enough to be critical of `an expert'.

@Red Alfa
I've suddenly remembered this name, which Zendra had mentioned some months ago about adding to Twitter. However, Twitter claimed that this profile didn't exist. This happens at times, when a newly registered profile can't be found. Anyway, I've tried it again just now and... still nothing. None for Red_Alfa either, or Red-Alfa. I wonder what it really is...

Saya... said...

My sentiments exactly. Was wondering why the all the testiness over this Anon's comment.

Tersasul yek? ;)

Tok Uban,
Tak lama ni leh buka pesantren seperti plan Tok tempoh hari. Bukan main lagi buka langkah dengan ayat Quran. Bakat terpendam! Air tenang jangan disangka tak dalam (poor translation of Still Waters Run Deep...but Capt not still...very active! Yooooo!)

Eh eh eh..macam my blog pulak nak menjawab kengkawan I yang datang lepak kat sini...haha

Zendra said...

Salam Alfaqir IlaLlah

Terima kasih atas komen anda yang terkini. Penjelasan itu memang yang saya ternanti-nanti (kerana belum kesempatan untuk mencarinya). Sepertimana kebanyakan kita di Nusantara, saya turut CUBA (walaupun tak banyak mana) mengerjakan amalan2 lazim di sini atas keyakinan akan ajaran Rasulullah SAW dan Sahabat2nya serta para ulama tersohor. Mungkin kalau dulu saya ditakdirkan lahir dan bermastautin di Saudi dan sebagainya, agaknya cara praktis mereka itulah yang menjadi ikutan saya, Wallahua'lam. Yang pastinya destinasi tujuan kedua-dua pihak adalah sama.

Saya amat menghargai sumbangan keilmuan anda di sini dan mengucap terima kasih sekali lagi kerana sudi menjenguk dan memberi buah fikiran.

Zendra said...

Hehe Uncle Lee, am not surprised that you thought you were in the wrong villa and blaming your age for it(ooops that last bit saya tambah, gurau saja).

Thanks very much for the condolences, we really do appreciate them.

Wah Tarzan calling for cheetah hor? If I drink it, I might call out for Red Alfa lor, then how? Bulan puasa some-more.
Thanks for the tip though. I'm OK now but I'll remember it for the next episode in my household.

You keep well too Uncle, I should be reading more about your escapades soon.

Capt's Longhouse said...

Saya !! haha...still water don't think nil crocodile yooo !! deep water got big sharks looo ??
hazards living in watery surroundings yaa !! ada asap sure got fire maaa ??. hehehe gapo tak tidor lagi Yeop Oii ??.
tks Mat !!..good reply, interesting read and hope that yr pc is back in-order too.
Zen & RA...yoooo !!..get back to bed !!..oops bulan puasa bukan madu ?? haha.

mekyam said...

salam taziah to the family of yr sil and to yours, zee!

alfatihah to yr abg mahmood!

mekyam said...

zee, my deepest apologies, but...

while everyone thanks "Sesama Muslim" for his/her reminder, i'd like to thank him/her NOT to second-guess the niat of MY lafaz Al-Fatihah to arwah biras zendra.

p.s. capt longhouse, i totally understand where you were coming from, sir. and kt, i'm glad i'm not the only one who sensed the sneer in the second comment.

Anonymous said...

Nampak macam komentar mekyam ini masih nak mengapikan keadaan, dan memfitnah, serta mencocok Capten yang saya lama hormati dan kenali melalui komennnya selama ini di berbagai blog, melalui sikap "condesending" nya (ie mekyam), seprti dia boleh membaca minda saya dan memutarbelitkan niat saya.

Tetapi sebagai menghormati Puan Zendra, akan saya "let it go".

Anonymous said...

maaf, itu tadi dari

"sesama Muslim"

Anonymous said...


Terima kasih di atas komen anda yang kedua, akan saya lebih berhati2 pada masa depan. Walau kita tak bersependapat, saya tetap menghormati pandangan saudara/saudari kerana memang berasas ie: tentang pendapat2 ulama lain yg dihormati mengenai isu ini.

Saya telah pun minta maaf kepada kak Teh dan Capt dan lain atas teguran saya. Mungkin pilihan kata2 saya tak berapa sesuai dan senang salahertikan. Tak perlulah saya ulangi kerana saya sudah pun menyatakannya dalam komen lain apa maksud saya dalam komen kedua saya yang memang tiada niat menyindir bila saya refer kepada "ignorant".

sesama muslim

Zendra said...

Ladymarko, thanks. Bulan puasa bulan menguji kesabaran, agaknya itulah terjadinya perbincangan sedemikian rupa hehe

Hey, how did it go with the briyani@in-laws?

RedAlfa and I watched the mutton briyani demo on youtube and he was practically salivating when the chef tasted his dish. Now he wants me to cook it too. Did you find the saffron?

Zendra said...

Salam Mat Cendana, Actually I was just being a busy-body reading the notes and did not even think by doing that I was "doing more" hehe. You've cheered me up Mat, thanks so much for gracing my humble teratak. I'll pop by yours soon.

Zendra said...

Capt. I survive on snatches of sleep nowadays. Sometimes feel like a zombie too. Keep up with your quranic quotes lah tapi kalau boleh provide the surah and ayat as well, so sesama kita boleh buat reference dan tandakan on the Quran. TQ :)

Zendra said...

Aiit mekyam, dah lama tak singgah! Where have you been, ahli dari Nuyork? Wah macam ni mana lah kepala speaker tak pening, ingat tadi dah gulong perbahasan hahahah!

Thanks for the condolence wish too, mekyam. You take care now.

Red Alfa said...

@Mat Cendana

I did start following/followed with twitter but I hadn't tweeted for a long time now. Don't know when I will start again. I like visiting this blog and through her's the blogs she links with. Among the blogs is yours to which insyaAllah, I would be among the present company enjoying commenting on your postings.

Zendra said...

Terima Kasih kerana "letting it go" Sesama Muslim. You take care too now.

Uncle Lee said...

Hello Zendra, just noticed that ahemmm, roses above, ha ha. Wonder siapa tu casanova, ha ha....
must be that one in red Alfa Romeo or red MGB.
Where wre you when I was handing out my resumes? Ha ha.
Hold that smile and have a nice your interesting thoughts at my pondok, Lee.

Uncle Lee said...

Ooops, almost forgot, just 'Lee" will be fine with long you don't add "Ah" in front...macham da tuka religion pulak, arhaaa ha ha. Lee.

Tommy Yewfigure said...

Hi Zee, wow very lively discussion here, and to think it all started with a sniffle & a funeral. And BTW; my deepest condolences to the family for your loss.

This is definitely the sign of our time, everyone’s so suspicious of one another, reading between the lines, what’s he/she up to, what’s their intention, etc…hmm so sad I tell u. Why can’t everyone be trustworthy of one another anymore? What happened to the good old sincere, honest to goodness “Apa khabar?” If only all of us face up to one another with pure intention without any suspicion, our lives will be so much calmer & serene (tranquility, for use of a much better word?). I had always given any strangers that I’d come in contact with, the benefit of the doubt, that their intention are sincere until proven otherwise. Then it’s just thanks but no thanks, u have a nice day & just walk away. Why lah go stress yourselves so unnecessarily. I’d always lived my life having my chin up, a clear conscience, without having to look over my shoulder.

And no, I don’t feel bad by pampering myself with my way of lifestyle, not overly luxurious but above average comfortable lah becoz I deserved it, I’d worked hard for it, and oh yes, I’m not leaving my kids any inheritance too (hahaha, they know that too), as I’d done my duties as a parent to provide them with all my love & had given them all the support they needed to get a good education & life skill to be law abiding & able to take care of themselves type of human beings.

People make the world go round and it’s perfectly alright to be different & have different opinions. The trouble is everyone wants to have the last word. Too much ego is a health hazard too.

Peace to everyone in this blessed month.


P/S – And life’s not fair too! I’m sooo much better looking than your RA (hehehe) but I supposed you’ll say that he’s luckier coz he had u. Cie la vie!

Zendra said...

Lee, cannot use "Ah" kah? How about "Bang" then? Eh lagi cannot lah - that one exclusive for Red Alfa only.. hehe

Where was I when Canuck Casanova was handing out his resumes? Let's see .... in the cradle? hahaha naaah I was not THAT young, but not old enough yet for an MGB open-top. Lucky lah, if not I might have become one of those you loved and then left ... wow very lucky I was born many years later .... adoiii

Zendra said...

Hello there Tommy, long time no see. Pergi makan angin kah?

Thanks for the condolences, too. Yeap this entry sparked a lively discussion - totally unprecedented on this facetious blog. All in a day's blogging, Tommy. Reminds me of when I had to manage people, have to make silat-like moves often, tepis sana tepis sini hahaha.

Nowadays people are more vocal when it comes to defending or preaching their respective beliefs, but as long they don't over-step the boundaries of decency and respect, then wars, hot or cold, simply cannot start. Just acknowledge the differences and agree to disagree, like what happened here.

Eh Tommy, no inheritance for your kids kah? Aiiyo, then the state gets all your wealth upon your demise, I presume. But then I bet you have given each of your kids some business to run, right? Kind of like teaching them to fish? I suppose you have got it all worked out. I'm just scared they send you to old folks home lah hehehe

Last but not least, as far as your looks go, the proof is in the pudding mate. E-mail me your pic and let me be the judge. Howzabout that?

Saya... said...


Tommy very secretive about his looks ever since I "met" him la...either he looks like Andy Lau or like Chua Soi Lek (both also have reason to hide)...he could even actually be your neighbour having some fun on the side ;) (dunno how he got the Perth IP tho...hmmmmm)

Don't angry ah, Tommy...put your profile pic up lah. Nice family pic. Now you very famous already meh, making the rounds at all the ladies blogs (you actually call us "MAKCIKS" in the other notorious blog ah...ceh!)

Zendra said...

Saya: Either he looks like James Bond or Michelin Man.

Saya... said...

Or cross between the two

Tommy Yewfigure said...

Hi Zee & Saya, (felt like v r having a ‘ménage a trois’, sorry no offence, just kidding. I tot Zee like French language),

Oh women oh women, sometimes curiosity get the better of u; ever went shopping & splashed on an expensive item on impulse that u end up having no use of it? Tell me about it, the missus got a cupboard full of them, still with their original labels & packaging in tag! Maybe some will worth a fortune today due to their antiquity value.

I’ll be doing a great disservice to all u ladies if I were to post my picture up. It’ll just like me staring at a picture of the Bugatti Veyron Fbg par Hermes i.e. u can see but can never touch / own…hahaha….Gee, sometimes I do hate myself for being so vain & conceited.

Old folks home??? Nah, semua sudah planned baik2, I’ll mortgage my house in due course, then check in full time in a Resort hotel to live the rest of my days; 24/7 concierge service, makan, laundry, entertainment etc all taken care of by the bank.

Hey Saya, ‘makcik’ is a term of endearment mah. I only frequent blogs of people that are reminiscence of my growing up years bosom buddies. Each & everyone of u remind me of someone special that had grace my childhood, macam mix & match. Like that notorious Kij & the infallible Matt, both geniuses in their own special way. And as for u ladies, I’ll let u go figure it out…hahaha.

Have a nice day.

Tommy Dukes (from Lady Chatterley’s Lover)

Zendra said...

OK Tommy be like that. Takda hal punya hehe. Maybe we should go back to calling you Unker lah - term of endearment mah...

You just discovered DH Lawrence, I see?

DrSam said...

Salam madam.

News on sickness/death/people passed away has always made us grieving and touched deep in our heart. That is us, being human the mortal being.

Innalillahi wainna ilaihi rajiun. May Allah gives Abang Mahmood a special place among the Solehin. Al-fatihah.

Zendra said...

Thanks Dr Sam, death is but a reminder to us of the immortality of our jasads - any time any place - as determined by the Creator.

Anonymous said...

just a tiny reminder-lah,,,,ya??

,,,"Every soul shall have a taste of death; and only on the Day of Judgment shall you be paid your full recompense. Only he who is saved for from the Fire and admitted to the Garden will have attained the object (of Life); for the life of this world is but goods and chattels of deception."
Surah [3] Al'Imran 185

,,,Again, Al Fatihah for Abang Mahmood.

,,,Insha' Allah, we will help each other to appreciate/understand the Holy Qur'an vast treasure of Qur'nic interpretations.

Zendra said...

Correction to my latest comment: "immortality" should read MORTALITY

(What was I THINKING???)

Zendra said...

Capt. Anonymous: Thank you.

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